Get Your Ex Back – Are You Pushing Your Ex Away?
If you are trying desperately to get your ex back it’s important to understand that the emotional pain you are experiencing right now could keep you from thinking clearly. It’s time to step back and take a good look at how you have been handling the situation so far. Many people keep blundering along making things worse so you may not even see that your actions might actually be pushing your ex even further away instead of increasing your chances that you will get your ex back.
When you have lost someone or something you are desperate to get back you frequently allow your emotions to take over and soon desperation can set in. In the instance of a break-up you might begin exhibiting the push away behaviors that make it much harder to get back together with your ex.
If you continually beg or plead with your ex to get back together with you it will only drive them further away. You might think that if you can only convince them of how much you love and need them, they will finally understand and come rushing back into your waiting arms. You may be surprised to find instead that you could be pushing them into the waiting arms of someone else instead!
You need to regain a sense of your own dignity here. Remember one of the many classic movie scenes you may have watched where the ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend character is trying desperately to win back their lover with needy declarations of undying love, or convince them that they will change, or make it up to their ex for whatever they think they did wrong?
Sitting in the theater or on your comfy couch at home watching a movie scene like that will usually cause you to cringe with embarrassment for the poor man or woman that’s on the screen pouring their heart out and humiliating themselves in the process. And you wonder if they are even aware of how much they are actually hindering their chances of getting back together with their ex.
Now can you see yourself in that movie scene that you just thought of? Are you doing any of those soul crushing behaviors that are not only hurting your self esteem by making you feel worse and worse but also continuing to push your ex away too?
You’re sure that if you can just convince your them of your love you will win your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back, so you are determined to do anything it takes, even move mountains to get them to see how much you love them and need them. Never mind that you are building mountains between you and your ex instead. Or perhaps you think that yours is a true love and true love conquers all – wrong again! True love is the operative word here. Or perhaps we can use the word real love instead.
Real love isn’t needy or desperate. It’s confident enough to allow your ex to have the space they need right now to breath and get a handle on their emotions before you make your next move. And if you make your next move the right one you will greatly increase your chances of winning your ex back instead of continuing to push them away from you.
Now don’t despair; even if you have been blundering along it’s never too late! Time to take that step back and give it a break. Use this time instead to pull yourself together and learn a SMARTER WAY to get your ex back!
